Retail Therapy – Thrift Shopping In Lagos

He slammed the door so hard, he almost unhinged it. How could anyone have suggested the idea of thrift shopping in his precious house-hold? 

We were well below average at this point (We lived in an uncompleted building without floors and a toilet) so my little mind concluded this type of shopping must be reserved for the ones even poorer. Maybe, wretched.

Rape Culture; How Many More Women?

I’m angry and hurting, and every single day I see more women like me. Some much worse, and you wonder how many more? what did we do to deserve such a cursed fate? There was Uwa, and most recently, Toyin Salau. Bright young women who are now dead because someone felt entitled enough to their bodies, and took it. Then brutally ended their lives also.

Procrastination Issues? What Worked For Me

Your stretcher-bearers will need to focus on their lives at some point so you’ll need to hold yourself accountable. It’s painful, on some days all you’ll want to do is sit in a dark corner and eat some more ice cream with a snotty nose and swollen eyes but you’ve done that all week and it’s time for a change. Take a walk, (even if you have to roll out the door) take a bath, and wear a bright colored Tshirt. You’ll be surprised how much of a change this will bring.

5 Life Lessons I Learnt After 45 Days On The Road

On this same perilous bus to Senegal, we met Sarah; a food trader from Ivory Coast married to a Nigerian man. A phenomenal woman if you ask me. She got most of us on the bus to organize a bonfire that we danced around, despite that we were all muttering under our breaths, praying to our local deities to save us. You really don’t want to be stuck in the middle of nowhere by 11 pm. Interestingly, only a few people spoke a common language but that didn’t matter.

Is The Magic In Presets? Creating An Aesthetically Pleasing Feed

If your dream is to have your feed look like an amazing vacation to Seychelles but you are a student in Ikere Ekiti 300 miles away from a beach, you’re doing something wrong. Pick something that works for the environment you spend most of your time in or you will run out of ideas quickly.

The Bath That Changed My Life

There haven’t been a lot of experiments on why we get random insights in the bathroom but psychology does have a theory that describes a mental state that seems to foment these kinds of thoughts. It’s called the default mode network.

“You become less aware of your environment and more aware of your internal thoughts,” said John Kounios

The Pain Of Forgiveness

It’s painful revisiting and processing what hurt you. Letting go isn’t any easier but if you don’t, they win. Again.

Breakfast Thoughts: Healing Or Coping?

Hanging out with smart women is one of the most enjoyable things for me, and as usual, I had one of the most insightful conversations on trauma when I had breakfast with one of my favorite women over the weekend. I learned pretty early to ‘suck it up and move on’ and so sometimes I…

A Little Love But Never Enough Love

“Next time he speaks to me like that I’ll leave” “Next time he stands me up I’ll leave” “Next time I ask what exactly we’re doing and he doesn’t give a good enough answer I’m leaving”

But you never do. Do you? Because there’s something poetic about that kind of love right? Because you just need to endure it a little longer it’ll all end well? No?